Bedtime: Everything Starts Here

Bedtime: Everything Starts Here

I tend to emphasize night sleep because it’s easier to sort things out at night (stop laughing, I’m totally serious). When everybody is sleeping better at night, improving naps is far more likely. And your efforts to improve your child’s night sleep is entirely dependent upon one thing. Bedtime. What happens at bedtime, when bedtime occurs, and how you approach bedtime will determine how well your child sleeps (and thus how you sleep) at night.

Bedtime is the linchpin of the entire night. Much of what happens during the 11-12 hours that makes up your child’s night is determined by bedtime….

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Why Consistency in Cry it Out is Critical: A Case Study

July 16, 2014 |  by  |  cry it out, parenting, Q&A, Sleep Consults  |  112 Comments
Why Consistency in Cry it Out is Critical: A Case Study

If you read many of the posts here you’ll find that the term “consistency” comes up approximately 1,203,468 times. Consistency is a really powerful component of helping your child sleep. Where does your child sleep? Who cares, just be consistent! What does your bedtime routine look like? Who cares, just be consistent! I use the phrase “consistent” as many times each day as I say, “Stop hitting your brother.”

Consistency is doubly important when it comes to cry it out. Because when it comes to sleep training, even small well-intended inconsistencies can blow up on you.

Almost immediately.

Here’s a great illustration of…

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7 Sleep Lessons from a Stanford Pediatric Sleep Specialist

June 18, 2014 |  by  |  parenting  |  26 Comments
7 Sleep Lessons from a Stanford Pediatric Sleep Specialist

Last week I had the opportunity to enjoy some of the gentle joys of California which included beautiful desert flowers, outstanding wine, and a lovely meeting with leading pediatric sleep and apnea specialist Rafael Pelayo from the Stanford School of Medicine.

You should also know Rafael is often interviewed by O (for Oprah) Magazine. So according to the transitive law of mathematics, my blog is as cool as O Magazine. You cannot argue this point, because math.

Rafael generously spent a few hours with me and we covered topics ranging from the best rock band to how to make limoncello. Thus…

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7 Days to Chunky Naps and 11 Hour Nights – Reader Q&A

May 6, 2014 |  by  |  1 YO, cry it out, Q&A, Sleep Consults  |  65 Comments
7 Days to Chunky Naps and 11 Hour Nights -  Reader Q&A

Alexis,
I’m really glad I found your blog. Sheesh, the internet is a SCARY place, and I’m so relieved to find your safe, understandable unbiased little island of inspiration!

What I need help with is establishing a routine. I need an initial outline. I’m a terrible habit-former. As in, I smoked cigarettes for a few months, then one day realized I hadn’t smoked a cigarette in a while because I FORGOT TO SMOKE THEM. I don’t wake up to an alarm because I can’t get into the habit of setting one in the first place. I eat, generally, during the day at…

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Pediatrics Study on White Noise: Sounding Off on Sound Machines

Pediatrics Study on White Noise: Sounding Off on Sound Machines

I make no secret of the fact that I love white noise because it’s immensely helpful in helping your children cry less and sleep better. It’s pretty much the only “no fail” baby sleep tool at your disposal. Seems simple enough: buy one of the many commercial baby white nose machines and turn it on. No brainer, right? Well today Pediatrics published study on white noise saying that the cute little baby white noise machine you got at your baby shower is too loud.

The study took 14 infant sound machines (those marketed specifically for use with babies), turned the volume…

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