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9-12 Month Baby Sleep Guide

sleep guide for older babiesThis is it parenting peeps, the last few legs of the race. Enjoy these last days of being a parent of a BABY because in mere seconds you will be the proud parent of a TODDLER. Your older baby is no longer a screaming mess of short naps and blowout poops. Your baby is NOW a delightful smiling, laughing, ball of cute baby chub and tickle toes. Seriously, there is nothing better than a 9 month old baby. Absolutely nothing.

Things That Are Normal for 9-12 Month Old Babies

  • Bedtime is pleasant and happening at a reasonably consistent time each day somewhere near(ish) to 7:30 PM.
  • Baby is taking 2 consistent long(ish) naps a day.
  • Baby may still need a 3rd nap although this may vary from day to day. It’s generally short, maybe as little as 10-20 minutes. Also the 3rd nap is unlikely to happen in the crib so you may need a stroller walk/baby wearing/car ride to make it happen.
  • Baby is enjoying solid food and finger foods – YAY!
  • Baby is sleeping ~11 hours a night – YAY!
  • Baby is eating 0-1 times at night.
  • Baby is falling asleep on their own at bedtime and naptime.
  • Baby is sleeping where you would like them to sleep (crib or co-sleeping).
  • Baby is done with most sleep aids (swing, swaddle, pacifier) but is still happy with a dark room, loud white noise, and possibly a lovey.

This may not describe your baby which is OK. Baby sleep is not like a race. What matters is that you DO cross the finish line, not WHEN you cross the finish line.

If your older baby is still up all night, taking short crappy naps, and struggles to go to sleep at bedtime, then start reading here:
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 1
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 2
How to Get Baby to Sleep Through the Night – Part 3

If your baby is 9-12 months old and sleep is still a misery (20 minute naps, bedtime battles, baby up all night, unwilling co-sleeping, only sleeps on Mom’s boob, etc.) then it may be time to consider sleep training. If you’re curious and want to learn more you can find everything I’ve written about cry it out here.

Further Reading

Why Bedtime Is Critical and How to Rock It
How and Why to Use and Lose the Paci
Weaning Baby OFF the Swing
When Night Weaning isn’t Working
Bedtime What Time?
Why Your Baby Hates the Crib
Monumental Guide to Vanquishing Short Naps
Are You Keeping Baby Awake Too Long?
Why You Need White Noise
When Babies Drop Naps and What to Do About It
The Secret to the 12 Hour Night
And of course the ever popular – Baby Sleep What is Normal?
{Photo credit: Lisa Stout}

 

155 Comments


  1. Hello!
    I have a question about third naps. My 9 month old (almost 10 month old) keeps moving his nap further and further. He just fell asleep for his third nap at 5:45. It used to happen at 4:30. His bedtime is 7:30. My question is, should he even be taking a third nap now? He gets fussy if not. Should I move his bedtime up for awhile? He wakes up at 6 AM and naps twice in the morning and afternoon. Thanks!

    • Does he have trouble going to bed at 7:30 when he takes the late nap? If so, I would suggest trying to drop the third nap and move bedtime earlier, maybe to 6 or 6:30. That’s what I imagine Dr. Weissbluth would advise, and his book (Health Sleep Habits, Happy Child) has worked wonders for our whole family’s sleep.

    • I agree with the earlier bedtime! My 10 mo old takes a nap at 930, one around 2, and bedtime at 630. She sleeps til around 3am then takes a bottle and wakes aeound 7. Shes very happy with that amount of sleep :)

    • My 9 month is the same. We kept the 3rd nap and bumped his bedtime to 8, which was nice because he slept a little later in the morning (630-7ish)

  2. Hi, this may seem stupid but am really starting to doubt myself! My 9 month old daughter now only has two naps during the day and neither are any longer than 40 mins. I can’t get her to go back to sleep once awake even if she’s yawning her head off! I’ve tried letting her CIO but she’s been known to keep going for 45mins and then vomitting! She used to sleep well at night (going down at 7pm and up at 6am) but for the last week has been waking around 2/3am and screaming. When we go to comfort her, she calms down but as soon as she is put back in her cot the screaming starts. In desperation, the last couple of nights I have put her in our bed and once calmed down she goes to sleep. I’ve then tried to put her back in her cot but the screaming starts again. She keeps pulling herself up to a standing position and screams her head off. Any suggestions?! I’d love for her to nap longer during the day but my main concern is her night waking.

    • I’m having the same problem where my daughter at first slept great until 5 but that has slowly creeped back 30 min at a time until now she wakes up at 3:30 am screaming her head off and I can’t get her to go back to sleep. Don’t know what to do!

      We do our bedtime routine and she goes down to sleep great and sleeps all through the night but just is waking up so early and is still obviously very tired.

      One thing that could be affecting her is that when she first started waking at 5, i got in the habit of bringing her back to bed and nursing her to sleep so we could go get more rest. But now when I go get her she only cries and settles down if I bring her to bed but she still never goes back to sleep. I think she likes coming back to bed enough that she’s waking earlier and earlier to do it.

      Anyone have any ideas of what I can to to transition her back to sleeping longer at night?

      • Hi Nicole,

        I persevered with the Progressive Waiting method with my little ones naps during the day and after three days her naps were closer to an hour, sometimes even two hours long. Once we got that sorted, we tried it with her early waking. It didn’t work. SO, had read about a method called ‘wake to sleep’. This is where you rouse them (not fully wake them) an hour before they’d usually wake. For our little one that meant moving her to a different position in her cot and covering her. She moaned a little and then drifted back to sleep AND slept through till 6 (now 6am we can cope with!!) The theory is that it interrupts their sleep cycle and they start a new sleep cycle again. It was suggested to do this for three days. We did it for two mornings and then tempted fate by not doing it on the third day. Seems she didn’t need it. We now have a little one who naps pretty well and sleeps from 7pm to 6 – 6:30am!! Don’t know if this will help but…

        • Nicole- what’s progressive waiting? My guy (who is one- today!!) goes to sleep like a dream, and sleeps all night- but wakes up around 5:30 (regardless of when he goes to bed- we’ve tried everything from 5:30 to 8, and have settled back to his original bedtime of 6:30). We never go in to his room til 6, but that has made zero difference in when he wakes up. And he’s not a great napper. Usually about an hour total for the day- either two catnaps or 1 hour-ish nap. I’d love for better naps, but most of all I would LOVE for him to sleep til 6 or ideally 6:30. I think I will try this wake-to-sleep!

  3. HI, My baby is about to be 11 months. He is not the best napper – usually 45 min to 1 hour – twice a day. Although fights the 2nd nap like crazy. He used to be great at sleeping through the night, went down awake, sometimes would cry but eventually down after a few min. He recently started waking up at 2am, wide awake and starving. He also went through a bottle strike as well so that could be the reason he is waking up for a bottle in the middle of the night. So I am not really sure what to do, should I let him try to work it out and fall back asleep, should I continue to feed him, even though he hasn’t had any night feedings for the last 4 months. I know developmentally a lot of new things are happening but just wondering how to manage and work through this lovely sleep regression. P.S. We have hit regressions at 4 months, 8 months and now 11 months. We got over the other ones within a few weeks but now that he is so much more aware of what is going on, just looking for some extra tips. Thanks!

  4. Dear Alexis,

    Good afternoon. Ever since my son was born I have been reading your blog. He started out very fussy and was challenging to get on a schedule. We did this sleep lady shuffle method around 4 months old and after that he had great naps and slept pretty well at night- although he always woke for at least one feeding. He was a child who put himself to sleep and things were pretty easy for a while.

    About a month ago things hit the fan. He is all over the place in terms of sleep. Last night, for instance, he cried for two hours- he was inconsolable. Today, he went down well for his first nap, now for his second he is throwing a huge fit.

    He is almost 10 months old and has recently been able to stand up in his crib. Any advice on this would be greatly appreciated. My husband and I are at our wits end. We feel like if we let him cry it out at night he will literally cry for hours and hours.

    Thank you so much,

    Carlyn

  5. My daughter is 10 months old and she pretty much wakes up twice a night for a bottle.She goes to bed around 7:30-8pm and she gets a 6 once rice bottle also every night, can someone please tell why she doing this.

  6. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. My 9month old only sometimes takes long naps during the day. She is in a daycare so I really have no control about her daytime sleeping. Our bedtime routine has been the same since she was 4 months old. Bath/snuggles/bottle then bed. She hasn’t woke up for a night feeding since around 4 months as well. But now for the last month or so she has been waking up in the middle of the nighy ready to play. No amount of rocking or soothing does any good anyway. She just wants to play. If she is up playing I can’t sleep and it is really starting to affect my work. I am open for just about any suggestions at this point!

  7. I’m sure this has been asked and answered somewhere else, but what do you do when your 9-month-old still can’t sleep overnight and the cry it out method didn’t work?? Tried it for 3 weeks with my daughter, she screams for 2-3 hours then falls asleep for 10-15 minutes, then screams for another 2-3 hours, then 15 minutes of sleep, repeat all night. Shouldn’t it have worked, or at least helped, by now?? She has no health issues or food allergies, she’s well established on solids and is generally a happy kid. She just doesn’t sleep at night, even before we tried the crying method she was up 3-5 Times a night for no explainable reason. Since she was born we’ve been able to lay her down when she’s awake and she falls asleep on her own, but then she’s awake a lot all night. She sleeps well during her naps. Am I missing something here??

  8. This has been a lifesaver, we did sleep training with our 9 month old and now she is on a daily schedule. Before she was waking every 30 minutes all night long, would only sleep if held, and didn’t want naps. We never thought we could have easy naps and her sleeping 11 hours a night!! We are all so much happier and healthier. She is doing all of the healthy habits you listed here, so for anyone who feels hopeless, stick with it! Your whole family will benefit greatly. .

  9. Oh my, my baby doesn’t do any of those things at nine months. I feel like crying.

    • Hey Mika,

      You go ahead and have a little cry if it helps. Sometimes crying helps me, you know, get it out.

      Once that’s done, figure out what steps you could take to make things even a tiny bit better. Almost always this means changing what happens at bedtime. Change is hard and often a bit scary but you would be surprised at how quickly things can change for the better.

      You can totally do this, trust me!
      Alexis

  10. Is this for real? Baby doesn’t have a pacifier, goes to sleep on his own and sleeps eleven hours. Keep dreaming moms!

    • It’s so real! I’ve been following Alexis’s advice and my 4 month old is putting herself to sleep in the swing for naps and bedtime with no pacifier (but she is a thumb-sucker). We just keep trying little changes that are admittedly scary (like that first time you leave the room when she’s still awake) but being consistent works!

  11. Hey! JG is turning 9 months in a couple of weeks and he has been on an early rise spurt for several weeks now. He goes to bed at 7:30 to 8pm, but wakes punctually at 5 am every day. My DH began to bring him into bed with us to get him to sleep longer, in spite of my efforts to tell him that that was not a good idea… and I think JG began to wake up for that. Now it feels like it’s a permanent thing, and it’s frustrating. I’ve tried the wake to sleep method, but then he just starts waking up even earlier!! During the day, he sleeps 30 minute naps when he’s alone and 2 hours only if he sleeps with us. Any tips on how to wean him from this early morning waking to sleep with mom and dad? Thank you!!

  12. Early rising as mentioned above is kicking my tail too. Daycare has his room on one nap, even though he is only 10.5 months, but he certainly doesn’t belong in the wee baby room, so bed is about 6/630, then we are up and hollering at 5 am. Gah. No control over the day sleep has led to no control over the rest.

  13. My 11 month old son is an amazing sleeper. 7 pm to 7 am. 2-3 naps a day for an hr each. We put him to sleep with us in our king size bed then transferred him to crib from early on and were afraid he’d not be able to start going to sleep on his own. We were shocked when, a few weeks ago, he started doing just that!! He stopped wanting us to put him to sleep.

    But… now he’s not going to sleep on his own anymore and he refuses to let us snuggle him to sleep. Screaming for hours each night. I hope its a short stage.

  14. I’ve got 9 month old twin girls and am a single parent from the start. I stuck with a routine since aged 8 weeks and since 13 weeks they’ve slept thru the night. Both have COMPLETELY different personalities but I’m very strict with a routine. As a result they both nap for 45-60 mins in the am and 60-90 mins in the pm and 10.5-11.5 hours every night. Neither have pacifiers, they fall asleep on their own and don’t have any sleep aids whatsoever so it is possible. Believe me. Just be consistent and in charge. You’re the boss not them!

  15. My daughter has been sleeping 11 hours or more through the night since she was 6 weeks old, I wuld have to dream feed her, I took the dummy away at 5 months, stop night feeds etc…. And she is almost 11 months now! She brilliant sleeper but don’t reali nap due in day but tbh is rather her sleep all night, 3 meals a day, 1 healthy snack a day!!
    Pregnant with my second and so she’s good bcoz if I want to nap she generally will nap with me!!!
    Bed and bottle at 8pm wakes up at 8 sometimes later!
    Think I’m very lucky!

  16. This does not sound like my son at all!!!!

    He is the most adoring happy active child during the day and takes 2 goodish naps in the day time, eats solids and he is already walking.

    First i have to say we were blessed with a ‘good’ sleeper, but that good only lasted till he turned 5 months. He woke once a night from the first night we brought him home until he started teething, but i don’t think teeth can cause all this…

    At about 7 its bath time then he has a bottle and before 8 he is fast asleep and peaceful. he then wakes up at about 10 and falls back asleep mostly by himself. then comes 12 and he is up and refuses to sleep unless he has a bottle and lies on mom. even sleeping in this way only guarantees about an hour of sleep at a time and each time he wakes he wants something to drink, if he is in his crib he tends to wake every half hour. he only takes about 2 sips and then he goes back to sleep. this carries on all night till about 9:30 when he has his first nap of about 1,5 hours.

    what can we do to try and fix this as we did try cry it out, but he cries for almost 2 hours and is still not asleep by then my heart is breaking and i tend to give in. Should i leave him to cry longer? what are the other options, i have read the info on this blog and we have tried most of it with no luck.

    This mom needs sleep HELP!!!!

    • Our daughter was very similar. Waking all the time for nursing.

      She was small and we worried she might actually be hungry, so we always fed her.

      Well it was obviously a comfort thing. We transitioned slowly, first moving to holding her and getting her back to sleep that way. It seemed like an easier transition. We did that for a few weeks and then moved to helping her fall asleep, or back asleep, by her self in the crib. Trying to bring her to the bed to sleep with is doesn’t work, it made her expect food and nursing. Of it didnt show up it was screaming. And screaming inches from your ear, which is harder to not give into.

      The crying lessens over time. You know she is safe, and not in pain.

  17. Hi – My son is 9 months old and sleeps exactly 8 – 8 every night without waking up. I’m trying to get him on a routine to nap in his crib and I’ve managed to get him to do 1 ~1.5hr nap around 11 but a second nap in the afternoon is SCREAM fest!! it is NOT working.. given he’s sleeping 12 hours through the night, is it reasonable to do 1 2hr nap around 12 or 1 instead?

  18. I must say, after reading these comments, it reminds me that every baby is different. My son is 9mo and from day one I would read about how to make him sleep better. Some things worked, some didn’t. But regardless, I drove myself nuts.

    Ladies, please know you’re doing the best you can and some mommies are just “lucky”. They don’t have the magic touch or no some secret you don’t. Hang in there. :)

  19. Hi you guys, please help!!! My 9 month old is a very happy go lucky boy and we never have any problems with him, he is also a very good sleeper, untill about two weeks ago, we went on vacation for 10 days!!! But ever since we are back home he doesnt want to fall asleep!! He is crying and screeming!! He is usually with a baby sitter during the day! Can it be that he now have seperation anxiety seeing and might be scared that I wont be here if he is awake? I just hate to see him like this and dont know what to do!!! PleAse give me some advice!

  20. Help! Please!
    My 9.5 month old son has always been a “good sleeper”. Quick history-he was born 7 weeks prem and was in NICU x 3 weeks. Was on a strict 3 hour schedule there. He altered it to a 4 hour schedule himself upon coming home. He stuck to that for a few month, other than when having a growth spurt. Oh, he also has acid reflux to the point where he stopped breathing a few times ( no fun), but that has been sorted out on Meds. After about 4 months, he suddenly started throwing a 6 hour daytime nap in the mix. He was still sleeping all night, and waking him was just not a good idea for our sanity! This decreased at 6 months. I would do a dream feed at around midnight or 1, and he slept all night like a dream.
    I went back to work at 6 months, and dad is home with him. Baby immediately went on a daytime nap strike. When I got home, he wanted to be cuddled and fed/nursed, and immediately went to sleep for several hours, waking for an hour or two, and then going to bed for the night. We dropped the dream feed about a month ago.
    Now, he is showing quite a lot of seperate on anxiety, teething, and has a cold-poor guy!
    Over the last week, he has decided he does not want to sleep. Period. He will not let me cradle him for a cuddle, and even humming his usual lullaby causes screaming. Once asleep, he has good naps, and sleeps through the night.( I had surgery on my hand last week, which makes it hard to hold him and lift him-he is 25 lbs!)
    I don’t want to put him in his crib and just let him scream. I know he has some separation anxiety right now. So, I am trying a routine of reading a story, dancing with him a bit, as he doesn’t want to rock, and then putting him down. I sit in the rocking chair in his room, and don’t talk or say anything for about a minute. Then I lay him back down, if necessary, reassure him that he is just having a sleep, and sit back down. I add a minute each time to about 3-4 min, and then stick to that interval for reassuring him. He takes between 10-20 min to stop screaming and fall asleep.
    I just need some reassurance that I am doing the right thing, and that this is probably just a phase!

  21. Hi there, I need help. My 9 month old has become a terrible sleeper. He was great before, would go to sleep on his own no problem. I’ve rocked him to sleep only 3 times before, and it’s only worked because he’s been hysterically tired. He uses a pacifier. It feels like the last few months he’s started waking up in the night and his naps are horrendous. He’s still taking 3, and yesterday 2 of them took an hour for him to get down, and then he only slept maybe 45 mins. I’m sure he’s stuck in an overtired cycle that I can’t break him out of. And he’s inconsolable when he’s trying to go for naps. I can pick him up but he just pushes with all his might to get down. He rolls and is now standing in his crib. If I leave the room, he loses his mind (which he is doing now-going on an hour ten), and I can’t help him. I don’t know how to fix this.

  22. Hello, I feel your pain! My daughters just about 8 months and it’s a struggle now for her to stay/ go back to sleep on her own. She’s always been a fussy High strung baby but at about 4 months would sleep 4-6 hour stretches. Bed at 7-8 then sleep (2-3 feedings during night) to 7 ish. Now at almost 8 months it’s all gone downhill. She’s completely drained and ready for bed at 6, wakes at 10&12, stays awake til 2 ish, wakes at 430 ish, I either fight her to go back to sleep at that point or were up for a very fussy day. She doesn’t eat well during the day so I refuse to wean her at night ( shes too stubborn any way) I believe she’s waking up to eat because she is hungry but I try and try and cannot get her to eat more during the day. She is definitely teething and has some tummy issues. Just thought I’d share just in case someone else is going through this, when I’m up for hours at night trying to get her to sleep I enjoy reading these πŸ˜„ I should also add I’m going to try a new bedtime routine and maybe later bedtime? She is formula fed and on solids, 2-3 naps during the day but fights me 90% of the time because she can stand in crib now and wants to be awake πŸ˜„ I’ve been on my own with her at night since 6 weeks old due to my husbands work schedule. Any advice is greatly appreciated!

  23. Hi, I was wondering I have a 11 month old who hates sleep, he won’t take naps and when he does finally fall a sleep he only sleeps a few minutes and that is it for him cannot lay him down for another nap. When bed time comes he’ll scream and cryjjust fight going to bed but once I do get him to sleep again he’ll wake I can’t get my baby to seep been like this since he was born I was hoping he would grow out of it but now he’s almost a year.

  24. HELP!! My son is nearly 11 months old and will not sleep.
    He has a nap for about a hour around 11am then maybe another around 3pm for about 20mins then he is awake till about 8.30 when i put him down in his cot.
    Proberly sleeps till 2-3am then wakes and wont go back to sleep till 5-5.30 which my alarm goes off at 6.30am so i can get my other children up and ready for school,then the whole day starts again!!!

    Help please as he has really bad seperation issues and spends his time awake crying and holding onto my leg all day.

    • Hi Kelly,

      Check out the Sleeping Through the Night series above as I’m pretty confident that’s the root problem for you guys. Not easy to sort out for sure but DEFINITELY worth the effort. I’m guessing it all boils down to how he falls asleep at bedtime. Is he clingy? Probably but I’m guessing that a lot of the separation issues are related to sleep deprivation. So if you can make things better on that front, the clingy stuff will abate.

      – Read those 3 posts (see above)
      – Gradually start pushing bedtime back (if he’s waking at 3:30 PM he probably will do better with a bedtime closer to 7:30 PM)
      – Changing what happens at bedtime should make dramatic improvement in his being awake between 3-5 AM.
      – If his bedtime does get moved to 7:30 PM his real wake time should probably be around 6:30 AM. You might want to start waking him when you get up so that you can reset his schedule so his night sleep is less disjointed.

      Try all this for 5 days before you give up. You can do this!

      • Hi Alexis,
        I read your sleep guide and thought it had great information. I have a 10 month old little boy. He was born under weight (not preemie). He is growing and developing as he should. Since, he was a month old he has been on a schedule. He goes to bed between 7:30-8:30pm. We put him in the crib with his white noise and some toys and let him fall asleep by himself. He sleeps until 11-12pm and then wakes up and has 5-6oz bottle. We change his diaper and he goes back to sleep immediately. Then he wakes up again between 4-5am to feed and then he has 3-4oz bottle. We change his diaper and he goes back to sleep until 7-7:30. My question to you is, “is this normal behavior?” because he still underweight for his age (but normal giving the birth circumstances) I feel that he needs those bottles, but on the other hand I don’t want to promote a routine that could be detrimental to him later. Please advise us!

  25. Hi I have 9 month old baby girl who have is sleep though the night. She sleep in around 8 pm and get up around 11 pm then after the bottle feeds she usually get up around 3 am then 7 at morning, I think Bc of hungry and she just does. Not have skill to go back sleep her own? What should I do ??

    • Chen,

      I’m guessing the root issue is her falling asleep with a bottle at 8 PM. You don’t say this but it’s a strong guess. Change how she falls asleep – remove the bottle from your bedtime routine. This establishes the basis for night weaning. Once that has happened you can start gently reducing the amount of formula she gets during the night – make bottles smaller by 1 oz every night. But the key is to change what is happening at bedtime first. Good luck!

      • I do not get it. What do I need to do ! She usual get up and eats 4 oz is she is not eat no sleep at night and she cry

        • Hey Chen,

          What I’m suggesting is that if your daughter is taking a bottle NEAR or AT her bedtime this behavior is going to establish a “bottle=sleep” association for her. If she has this association (and I believe she does) your attempt to not give her a bottle at night is going to result in crying. If you want to wean off the night bottle you need to first remove the bottle portion of your bedtime routine. After you’ve made that change you’ll have more success not giving her a bottle in the middle of the night.

          good luck!

  26. Help! Ok my son is a ball of awesome who is slowly trying to kill me via sleep deprivation! He’s 11 month old, he is highly active and has been walking since 8 month. He’s a very independent kid who can easily play on his own and does not need or have time for lots of cuddle in the daytime! BUT ten kid has had the same sleep schedule his entire life! He goes to bed at 8 after bath singing dim light and white noise and bottle. He the. Wakes up at 12,3,6 and finally at 830 for the day. THIS IS EVERY NIGHT. He eats finger foods and is taking 2 naps a day one at 12 for about an hour and one at 3 for about 2 hours sometimes on terrible days 3 naps. He drinks a bottle at 3 am and 6 am at night. He won’t get comfortable and continue sleep with a full diaper he still gets changed 1-2 times a night because he’s like a camel. He doesn’t wkae up and party but he does wake up and he is angry about it then get what he needs an dna k to zzz land! We have tried cry it out both in intervals and cold turkey and it was ww3! Last attempt he cried 2 hours and was so hysterical he started puking and it took me another 2 hours to calm him back down. He was hysterical to say the least. In intervals I got him to sleep but he still woke at his “scheduled” times every night. I am at my wits end! I don’t know what to do but I do know I need sleep!

  27. Hello,

    We have an 11.5 month old who has been consistently taking two naps (8:30-10 am – sometimes 10:30, and 12:30-1:30 – sometimes 2) for 4 months now. Note that she wakes between 5:30-6:30 am.

    Over the past week her morning nap has been from 8:30-11 am and she has been refusing her afternoon nap. She routinely goes to bed at 6pm but we have been putting her down between 5-5:30 because she is completely exhausted by this time.

    We tried capping her morning nap at 10:15 am today but her afternoon nap resulted in a lot of tears and was only 30 minutes.

    Struggling to figure out if she is ready to begin transitioning to one nap or if this is just a phase. Please help!!

    • Hi Julie,
      My son is 10 months old as of yesterday. He has been on a schedule since his first month of birth. I follow the Mom’s On Call suggested schedule for his age group. They say that they should have 2 naps that are 1-1 1/2 hours long. The third nap is a 30-45 min nap if they need it. Sometimes he takes his third nap and sometimes he doesn’t. I think she might be sleeping too much on her naps. Try keeping the naps less than 2 hours and gently wake her up. Then give her a little snack and play time. It also sound like she could use the third short nap. I hope this helps! Good Luck!

  28. Hi Lady! You are awesome!! I was referred to your site when my now 18 month old was 4months. I find myself coming back every now and then when I’m in a sleep pickle. Anyway now that daylight savings has shown it’s nasty face my 18 month old is refusing his nap. He goes down for the night at 7:30 and wakes about 6:30-7:00 and naps at noon. He used to be great at napping. not a peep. But now he is yelling and crying. He has been crying for 30 minutes now, not hysterically or I would have gone in there but he seems mad. He is yelling and crying. I need suggestions…. PLEAsE!? THANK YOU FOR ALL YOUR WONDERFUL SUGGESTIONS AND INSIGHT!

    • Well I fear I will seem far less awesome when I tell you that there is no magic insight here! His body clock will take time to adjust to the “new” naptime. You could experiment with pushing it back slightly – to say 12:30 PM. This is also probably hampered by the fact that many kids have a sleep regression around 18 months. So really the secret sauce is to just keep calm and carry on.

  29. Hi, we did CIO around 5 months with our 10 month old, and it worked great. After that, we all started sleeping in the night, she wasn’t up at 5 when my husband got up for work anymore, etc.

    She is now 10 months. She’s up between 7 and 8 in the morning, goes down for her first nap at 10ish. That goes fine. She sleeps for an hour and a half to two hours.

    She will NOT go to sleep on her own for her afternoon nap (2:30ish). For a long time, I have just been rocking her to sleep for that nap, and it worked fine. Now, when I lay her down in her crib (after 20ish minutes of her sleeping in my arms to make sure she’s cycled through to a deep sleep) she just wakes up.
    Sometimes she’s fine till bedtime (7:00) but lots of the time she’s grumpy for the rest of the day.

    Ideally, I would like her to go down on her own for this second nap as well, but more than that, I just want her to sleep longer.

    Are my expectations too high? Is 20 minutes a reasonable amount of time for a second nap for a 10 month old?

  30. My 11 month old goes down very easily and consistently at 7pm. He had been sleeping until 6:15-6:30 without question but for the past month he’s been waking up around 5:00a. He naps really well at 9a and 2p, usually for 1.5-2 hours each nap. I’ve tried waking him up early from the naps, and I’ve tried not going in to him in the morning, but nothing seems to help him sleep past 5a. Sometimes if I leave him to play/whine for 30-45min he will go back to sleep, but I’m worried this is messing up his sleep for the day. Is this just our new reality or is he trying to tell me to change something up and I’m not getting the message?

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